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Alright, i've had it

I challenge all of you to a knife fight. One on one or all at a time. Let's go! No one licks me in a knife fight.

By fnord12 | January 22, 2007, 1:44 PM | My stupid life | Comments (6)| Link


Rutgers came out with a paper called Life Without Children. It's about how fewer married couples have children. It talks about how society has changed, how the perception of parenthood has changed in our culture, and how more old people are having sex.

Besides feeling vindicated, I found some things in the paper to be quite interesting.

Increasingly, Americans see the years spent in active child rearing as a grueling experience, imposing financial burdens, onerous responsibilities, emotional stress, and strains on marital happiness.
Troublingly, too, married couples now see children as an obstacle to their marital happiness. According to one recent review of over 90 studies of marital satisfaction, married parents report lower quality relationships than married couples without children. Psychological problems are also plaguing parents. A study of 13,000 U.S. adults finds that parents are more likely to be depressed than nonparents. In his study of parenthood, historian Peter Stearns makes an even broader claim: the defining characteristic of contemporary American parenthood, he writes, is anxiety.

I feel this is all totally right. Kids are stressful and hard work. The possibility for cuteness doesn't really outweigh all of that, imo. Plus, they often look like worms or shrunken old people for the first couple of months right after they're born. Even after the first couple of months when they stop being shrivelled, they might still not be cute. Some kids, just like some people, are destined to be fugly. I think most people are shallow enough to care.

Also, considering my personality, there's just no way i couldn't be disappointed in my child. I have been told by one or two people that i have a somewhat exacting nature. No sense in raising a kid with some sort of neurosis. That would just be mean.

What's more, contemporary motherhood now threatens contemporary marriage. Most Americans today don't marry in order to have children. They marry in order to have an enduring relationship of love, friendship and emotional intimacy. Achieving this new marital ideal takes high levels of time, attention and vigilance. Like new babies, contemporary marriages have to be nurtured and coddled in order to thrive. The problem is that once a real baby comes along, the time, the effort and energy that goes into nurturing the relationship goes into nurturing the infant. As a result, marriages can become less happy and satisfying during the child-rearing years.

It was all working perfectly fine when people didn't expect to be happy in their marriage. Young people today are spoiled by their romantic ideals. They need to grow up and be more realistic. Marriage is supposed to be miserable. That's why you have kids. So you don't have time to dwell on how miserable you are. And when the kids move out, you're supposed to drop dead.

Until very recently, the adult life course was thought to consist of two stages: parenthood and old age. Parenthood dominated the larger share of one's adult life. Old age occupied the lesser share. The years surrounding these two stages were transitional. Life before children was a brief time between the end of formal schooling and the beginning of marriage and family life. Likewise, life after children marked the end of productive adulthood and the beginning of a descent into enfeebled old age.

Today's older generation is not complying. They aren't getting enfeebled and dead fast enough. They're actually having lives. And sex.

"The years of life after children are not only more numerous. They are also healthier. It's no longer the case that the emptying of the nest is followed soon after by the arrival of the rocking chair, much less the hearse. After the children leave home, many adults will have decades of vitality before they begin to experience debilitating health problems."

"Sex is now part of the fun and freedom of the early adult years before children. Similarly, sex has become part of the pleasures of life after children. Many of today's parents are entering the empty nest years with subscriptions to Match.com, prescriptions for Viagra and hopes for hot new romances."

Jazmine's response to that last bit was predictably "Ew."

Finally, high levels of educational attainment contribute to childlessness. Women who hold four-year college degrees are more likely to be childless than women with lower levels of educational attainment.

Apparently, the Mormons in Utah were right all along. Women should be kept ignorant so that they'll spend their time churning out babies like god intended, dammit! This whole education thing is messing things up.

You know, my parents might kick themselves if they knew about that last bit. To think, all that pushing for me to do well in school has contributed to their current lack of grandparent status. Hmm.

I thought about printing this paper out and handing out copies to my relatives, but fnord12 said, "They don't care, they want babies! Your happiness has nothing to do with it". He's almost right. They do want babies. But they do care about my happiness. It's just that they're convinced that it's tied inexorably to babies. Mostly, so there'll be someone to take care of your enfeebled, old self.

Also, i hear that another benefit of having kids is you can ask them to record things off the cable for you. Very convincing argument. My mom almost had me with that one. So close.

By min | January 19, 2007, 12:01 PM | My stupid life | Comments (12)| Link


The gas station attendant told me to have a nice weekend. It must be Friday.

By fnord12 | January 18, 2007, 7:53 AM | My stupid life | Comments (2)| Link


Yesterday my cat Jimi died. He was almost 16 years old which means he had been around for half my life.

Today i am sad and feeling old.

By fnord12 | January 10, 2007, 10:03 AM | My stupid life | Comments (1)| Link

Morning Death Report

You guys are a bunch of slackers. I'm gone for a week and not one of you thinks to let me know Ford kicked it. That, plus they hanged Saddam. Who else died that i don't know about?

By the by, didn't anyone think it might be in poor taste to dress the "executioners" up in ski masks so that they looked just like the rebels/terrorists running around kidnapping and beheading people? Just a thought.

By min | January 3, 2007, 3:28 PM | My stupid life | Comments (1)| Link


We are up and running once again through absolutely no effort on our part. Our webhost ICDSoft was experiencing some technical difficulties in Boston. Fucking Boston. They fixed it. Obliviously. Unfortunately for you, it's past time for me to go home so you shall have no delicious tidbits to keep you occupied for the rest of the day unless fnord12 is feeling generous. Ah well. Sucks for you. Have some rum punch.

By min | January 2, 2007, 4:11 PM | My stupid life | Comments (0)| Link

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